Tips for online dating
You might think that there aren’t any rules when it comes to dating or in this case online dating but there are. Some say dating is a game and like a game there are rules which need to be played by. Same applies to online dating. It improves your chances on the online dating market if you know what to do and what not to do. These are just tips and one can pick what can work for them.
Tip 1: create a good profile
Your profile needs to give others who view it a basic understanding of who you are. So be elaborate in what you share about yourself on your profile, fill in as much as you can. When writing mind your grammar and use spell check. Be honest in what you tell others, a lie only goes so far and the truth always has a way of coming to light. A good profile also has a picture, members with pictures get a lot more views than members without a picture.
Tip 2: be assertive and active
Show interest in members who you want to get to know better. Second step after showing interest is to send them a message, but keep it casual to find out if they are also interested. Don’t start demanding for a date in your first message, that will scare people off. Also when you react to what someone has written on their profile make use of what that person writes. Show interest in hobbies, likes and dislikes, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Questions like ‘Where do you see yourself in the next three years, what makes you laugh/happy, who has been your biggest influence in your life?’
Tip 3: be original
When you are emailing different people it’s very tempting to just copy and paste one message into several emails and send them out. Be original and the people you are communicating with will respond better to you. We all know those cheesy pick up lines which don’t work so don’t try to be someone that you are not. Originality is the best thing. Secondly it makes dating much more fun and not boring.
Tip 4: have contact over the phone
Before you decide if you want to meet someone in person, talk to them over the phone. You might think that that person is really nice but maybe perhaps once you meet it’s a whole different story. Someone’s voice can give you a different impression than contact via computer/chat or email. A word of caution, only give out your phone number to a person who you feel comfortable with. When you are nervous to make that first call, prepare a list of questions that you can ask him or her when you don’t know what to say.
Tip 5: Meet up
When you have found a person that you like, you have talked to him or her for some time (over phone) and he/she makes you feel comfortable enough to meet up then do so. The only way you know if there’s a connection not just online, is to meet each other offline. You don’t want to invest a lot of time and then later on discover you don’t match in person. So meet up.